As we approach Father’s Day 2025, I want to share a few thoughts specifically for those of you who lead—and also wear the title of Dad.
I’ll never forget the Friday before Father’s Day last year, 2024. I had just wrapped up some work and headed upstairs to relax. Not long after, one by one, all five of my adult kids came up the stairs, dressed and ready to take me out—just the five of them, Heidi, and me. What a gift that was. We laughed all the way to my favorite restaurant—well, sort of. They may be adults now, but they were still fighting over who got to sit where! Classic. That night was filled with joy, a few tears, and conversations around the table about both fun and difficult moments from our shared history.
After dinner, we made a stop at Publix to grab all their favorite childhood snacks—then went home and played games. It wasn’t extravagant, but it was deeply meaningful. That night was the greatest Father’s Day gift I could’ve received.
I share that intentionally—because I remember the years when they were young. I constantly questioned whether I was doing enough as a dad. Was I balancing ministry, work, and family well? Would my kids grow up loving Jesus and the Church? Or would they resent me for the time and energy I gave to others?
Just a few weeks later, after that dinner, I retired from full-time ministry. That following Sunday, I sat in the front row and watched a video of each of my children sharing their hearts with Heidi and me. I was moved beyond words. Each one expressed love for God, for the Church, and us. It confirmed something I had long hoped was true: While I wasn’t a perfect dad, I had done something right.
To those of you who are still in the thick of it—leading, parenting, juggling more roles than you ever imagined—I see you. I remember days when I felt like I was failing at all of it.
Chances are, you’re doing better than you think.
And if you’re not, then own it—and do the work to fix it. It’s never too late to course-correct.
Here are a few practical tips for dads who are also leaders—in ministry, business, or any high-demand role—who are trying to juggle the many responsibilities and still show up well at home:
1. Be Where Your Feet Are
When you’re home, be present. Put the phone away. Don’t just be around—be engaged. Your presence and attention matter more to your kids than perfection or performance.
2. Schedule What Matters Most
Leadership calendars fill up fast. If you’re not intentional, your family gets the leftovers. Block out time for your spouse and kids like you would an important meeting—and treat it with the same commitment.
3. You Don’t Have to Fix Everything
As a leader, you’re used to solving problems. But your kids (and spouse) don’t always need solutions—they need connection. Sometimes just listening is the most powerful thing you can do.
4. Let Your Kids See You Grow
Own your mistakes. Apologize when you mess up. Let them see you pursue growth—physically, spiritually, emotionally. Your example speaks louder than any words ever will.
5. Take Care of Yourself So You Can Take Care of Them
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Guard your health, your rest, and your time with God. A healthier you is a better leader and a better dad.
Here’s to all the Dads. Fatherhood is one of the greatest leadership roles you’ll ever have.
Stay in the fight. Keep showing up. You’re planting seeds that will bear fruit for generations.
You are seen and you are appreciated. Enjoy your day!
